Five Tips for Women to Create a Sexually Stimulating Environment

Many marital relationships become sexually obsolete over time and need external stimulation. This is not necessarily due to a lack of love for each other. It’s more due to the pressures of life a woman has to deal with: work, children, church or volunteer work, extended family. It’s hard to juggle all of these and still be sexually alert. She doesn’t pay much attention to herself or her surroundings. However, every wife should always remember that she creates the atmosphere in the home. It is even more so, for the sexual environment in which the relationship with her husband can flourish. What can a woman do to create this environment?

Renew your physical environment

The appearance of the home is so important to a good sex life. A messy home is very unattractive and can be bad for good sex. Going one step further, a home could be tidy and still feel like a boarding house, hospital, or office rather than a warm and welcoming place a man wants to go. A home should be warm and welcoming, a haven where love can flourish and sex can happen spontaneously. It is the woman who can put this type of home in its place. Creating the right environment contributes greatly to the sexual equation between husband and wife. Most men do not have the ability to create it, but they enjoy it when the wife has done it because they are stimulated by the things they see. That kind of environment allows things to happen naturally.

Not all women have a natural talent for creating this environment, but there are many resources available these days: magazines, books, the Internet. Any woman can get really creative with color in sheets, bedroom walls, and furniture. It doesn’t have to cost too much if women don their creative hats. However, a woman who prefers to get professional help should do so. Worth every penny. Women should make the effort to have the most attractive house they can have within their budget.

It is difficult to maintain a cozy home when children are growing up. They can get very dirty and make it difficult to keep your home clean and smelling nice. For women living in Africa, the situation is even more difficult. They live with an extended family and servants in addition to their children. They occupy all the available spaces. They bring out the comfort of any home. But women have yet to try. Even if the whole house is taken, there is the room called the Holy of Holies, intended only for the husband and wife. Wives should be the ones to attract their husbands home by the environment they create using everything they have at their disposal: the beauty and fragrance of flowers, artwork, music, colors, and shadows. It will help both man and woman to relax, forget about the crazy outside world and enjoy each other.


It cannot be emphasized that men are stimulated by what they see. When a man marries, he likes what he sees in his wife. However, after a few years, his wife is no longer the woman he married. All the pressures of her married status give her less time for her appearance. Then the children come and she begins to gain weight and the looks suffer even more. Such a woman looks in the mirror a few years later and feels bad because she is not happy with what she sees. He drives down the road, sees younger, prettier women with flat abs, and begins to wonder what happened to him. Magazines and television commercials do not make it easy for you to accept what has happened to you. Of course, right now, your sex life is almost non-existent. The fire went out with the third child. When was the last time your husband took a good look at you? When was the last time you paid him a real compliment? When did you last tell her that she is beautiful? When was the last time you had a good night with him?

Her life has become a cycle of work, chores, children, husband, and the only thing that suffers is the woman’s body. He has no time for her. In trying to fulfill your daily responsibilities, you don’t have time for regular classroom visits. He can’t afford the time to buy nice things, so he flies to the store and picks up the first thing he finds to buy. His wardrobe is dingy and dull. However, every wife should remember that being and staying beautiful is paramount to a vibrant sex life. Not all women have to look like Naomi Campbell or Jennifer Lopez, but all women should make an effort to take care of their bodies, keep them beautiful and healthy. Husbands appreciate the efforts their wives make.

They should take the time to take care of their hair, skin, and nails. Most women go to bed wearing makeup, not paying attention to the damage done to their skin. They don’t follow any skincare routine to keep it young and vibrant.

Shopping for clothes is supposed to be an exciting experience, not a quick detour to the stores. No woman will be able to get clothes that bring out the best of her body or accentuate her figure, without spending quality time in stores. To get the best value for money, a woman should set aside time to buy what is best for her.

Some women dress so dramatically when they are at home and only dress up when they go out. They wear very impolite boubous (long African dresses) or large T-shirts or old shirts and jeans. Who are they dressing for? They have forgotten how they used to wear their best clothes when their boyfriends came to see them. They have changed from women who wanted to impress men. After all, they have seen it all.

Husbands go out of the house every day and see all those pretty girls with flat tummies and perfectly dressed and made-up faces and then come home to a wife with disheveled hair in a boubou or in old T-shirts and jeans. This is what many men have to deal with, wives who are no longer trying to attract them. It should not be like that.

Most women never enjoy the pleasure of buying underwear. They buy black and white bras. They do the same with their panties. Meanwhile, God went to the trouble of creating a beautiful variety of colors between black and white: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, and violet, the primary colors. Then in the middle we still have the peach, turquoise, mauve, navy, mustard, etc. Women should be creative in the color spectrum of their underwear. Creates a lot of euphoria for husbands. Creativity is the watchword. It is important for women to change their overall appearance from time to time: hair, nails, clothing, underwear, and everything else. It will get husbands to look again and remember the good times when it all began.


A woman’s body odor is very important. Husbands must be able to describe the smell of their wives as attractive and sexy. However, smelling good takes a lot of effort. To start with, it costs money. It’s something women have to work on all day, every day, especially in hot and humid climates. It is worth every penny one can afford. It starts with the soap or detergent they wash their clothes with, to their bathing techniques, and then the use of perfumes and deodorants. It is very important that women smell good to attract the attention of their husbands. It is also essential to stimulate a good sex life.


Whenever the weight problem comes up, some woman will say, ‘here we go again.’ It is true that all women cannot be as thin as the girls on the covers of magazines. It is also true that fat women are not a cursed species. However, if a woman was a size 12 when she got married, then she shouldn’t stray too far from there after marriage. It is fair to try to keep it as close as possible to what the husband saw at the beginning.

Aside from the health implications of being overweight, it doesn’t do the relationship any good. She still wants to fill up like the guy who chased her on campus, but she can’t feel that way when she doesn’t look the way she used to anymore. It’s hard to stay there, but women can stay close. It takes time, effort, and a lot of discipline to stay the same, but it’s worth the effort. It will keep things going in the bedroom. There will be few dull moments because the husband is constantly stimulated by what he sees.

Husbands may see even more beautiful versions of the beautiful women they married. After all, when women get older and more sophisticated, with their weight properly controlled, they will look much better than when they were first married. Remember what they say about vintage wine. It tastes better the older it gets. This is how women are supposed to be irresistible and even more attractive as they get older. When they start to lose weight, the results will be amazing. Much more attention than they have received in a long time. Better sex too. It comes as a complete package.


Sometimes women become so “wives” that their husbands no longer see them as friends and partners. Of course, in that kind of relationship, sex can never be interesting or hot. At best, it would be routine. So many married men feel like they are for their wives to the extent that they pay bills and do what is necessary. But they don’t see them as their trusted friends. Every woman should make the effort to be the one her husband wants to talk to about everything and anything. When a husband has a great relationship with his wife, the sexual act becomes better. He is relaxed, he is himself and there are no false airs or hidden barriers. There is openness and unity. It can only improve the experience. Being his friend makes being his wife so much easier and is definitely a plus to stimulate the sexual experience.

At the end of the day, home should be a place that the husband really wants to return to. It should be warm, welcoming, and friendly. It takes some work but the benefits are worth it. Women should follow the example of the Proverbs 7 woman, who diligently searched for the man’s face and found it. He tempted the man: “I have spread my bed with rugs and tapestry cushions, with sheets of fine linen from Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloe and cinnamon. Come, let us fill us with love … The man bought his lines. She did her best to get an answer from the man. She went as far as getting flax from Egypt. That is the same way women should prepare to seduce their husbands with everything they have. They will enjoy the rewards of sexual arousal that every married couple should enjoy.

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