As many often advise, visit your past from time to time, but don’t rent a house there… but don’t many of us love to sing the theme song to ‘poor me’? Are we doing this to seek empathy or simply to prevent ourselves from making the same mistakes over and over again? I was once told, to forget old memories, you have to create new ones… sad, the same thing is so strange and desperate for those who have lost loved ones to catastrophes or tragedies beyond their control.

All this is so sharply ironic. Sometimes, based on the past, we adjudicate our current actions to avoid mishaps in the near future. Whereas sometimes we shrug off the past to avoid losing what we have (for the future). But why does the circle of life return us to the same place, to the same place where we were a few years or months ago? Is it to test us if we have learned the lesson well or simply to heal us?

The sooner we free ourselves from regrets, the faster we will become more receptive to a new wave of exciting experiences. That is, why go through life walking backwards down the street. Forget ‘what lies behind’ and strive for ‘what lies ahead’. To that end, I’d say a positive approach to dealing with past mishaps would be to not ask ‘why me?’ In fact, ‘why not me’?

Some of us, to coin a phrase, have become masochists. We get satisfaction from revisiting our painful past, but then again, who am I to judge?

I always see it that way, maybe some people came into our lives to toughen us up while others to help us get in touch with our repressed emotions. The advent of some may have carved wounds into us, while others may have healed wounds we never knew would prevail. Time waits for no one and the joyful moments we spend with our loved ones simply become cherished memories that keep flashing after they are gone. So, let’s learn to live happily in the moment, enjoy everything we find and enjoy, without relying on the past, expectations or profit.

‘better an oops than what if’ – isn’t it better to fail while doing something than to have to live with the regret of not trying when given the chance? Also, the sooner we close old doors, new ones will open. So why the doubt goes through them fearing the past. Why not consider the outputs as inputs elsewhere?