Jesus said that even if you only desire a man or a woman, without the physical contact, you have already committed adultery with that person in your heart. Just think how many times viewers of pornography have committed adultery.

Matthew 5:27

You have heard that it was said to the ancients: “You shall not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Some may say that viewing pornography or lusting after a person without the physical act is totally harmless and will not make anyone cheat, I disagree, it is one thing to be happily married and you can still appreciate another person’s beauty without greed. Whether that “hot babe” neighbor of yours in apartment 7A or that Mr. “McDreamy” you run into every day on your way to work every morning, it’s another thing to wish on that coworker or best friend of your spouse, etc. Not to mention the fact that viewing pornography is disrespectful to your spouse.

The more you think about having sex with someone other than your spouse, the more it will stick in your mind and you will begin to think of ways to make it come true, the thought or image of you, involved in intense and hot sex with this person or even those pornographic images that you hide under the bed, burn in your subconscious and will make you want your spouse to imitate what you have seen or you will try to seduce and have sex with the person you want.

The saying, of the heart; the mouth that speaks is not an empty phrase.

What if you were chatting online with someone and you felt like you have a lot in common with

“Wow my spouse doesn’t know me as well as you do, we just have this powerful connection” or maybe you were chatting back and forth, engaging in a lot of sexual jokes trying to outdo each other on what you want to do with each other sexually and how fast or slow or long you want to do it. Meanwhile, your spouse is innocently in the bedroom watching TV not realizing that your sexual conversation is unfolding fast and furious just a few feet away in the next room.

Can you honestly say that’s not cheating and it’s just bravado, having fun and you’ll never get anywhere, we’ve both set limits, we know how far to go? Really?

What if you were at work and you were talking to your co-worker, whom you have known for years, have you had the occasional “how are you?” over the years, but now that they’ve had some conversations with each other, they feel good about all the attention they’re getting and the conversation

turns to sex and you end up sharing a long, slow, wet, passionate kiss and feel bad about

that; but the reason, “I won’t let that happen again.” My spouse doesn’t have to know; it will only make things worse, what you don’t know won’t hurt you. “Would you qualify that as cheating?

You don’t have to engage in physical contact to have committed adultery, and even when it becomes physical, whether it’s a passionate kiss, a “longer” hug than usual, or that “dirty talk,” it’s still a trap. Physical adultery, like a toddler learning to walk, begins with very small steps, lust turns into fantasy, and can lead to masturbation or going out to make your lust fantasy come true.

Romans 12: 2 says we must be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Replace those lusty thoughts with godly thoughts, spend time in the word, ask God in prayer to forgive, and remove the lusty thoughts.

Instead, think about how I can be a better spouse, spark an affair with your beloved spouse, do you know who you promised your eternal love to before God and before 250 of your closest friends and family at the wedding? Yes, that 🙂

Galatians 5: 16-17

Then I say: Walk in the spirit, and you will not satisfy the desires of the flesh, because the flesh has desires against the spirit and the spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to each other, so that you do not do the things you want. in other words watch your heart, cheating and sex in general is in all the media, so you must be strong.

Your lust outside of your marriage could be a sign of bigger relationship problems that you might have with your spouse and that requires communication or, if necessary, Christian counseling, it may be part of one or both spouses not meeting your needs, since emotionally or sexually; But it takes two people, making the effort to solve your marital problems, with God at the forefront for it to really work.

Deception, whether physical or not, can lead to violence, a feeling of betrayal, family dysfunction, emotionally scarred children, divorce and estrangement from God, God is purer eyed than to look at sin, the Bible says in Psalm 66:18 that if I consider iniquity in my heart, he (God) will not listen to me. So if you are a cheater, you are likely to get caught, or if you are tempted to do so, work on your marriage.

Proverbs 5:15

Drink water from your own cistern, in other words, you want only your spouse sexually, you have your beautiful girlfriend or your beautiful husband, why destroy your marriage and your relationship with God by lusting after an idiot / idiot thinking that the weed will do it ? be greener on the other side (it never is).

So what if the young woman paying attention to you is “sexier” than your wife? Are you already captivated, and besides, the outer physical beauty is only superficial? So what if he has the “Movie Star” look, is 6ft 4in, and makes you laugh and feel like a million dollars? Many women will get the attention; but you don’t have to, he probably won’t really love you, but rather is trying to get your clothes off of a charm. Love is not just a feeling; it’s a compromise.

Once again, communicate any problems you may have, seek God together and solve it, and despite what a recent ABCNews column might say about cheating being more “culturally acceptable,” it is definitely not acceptable to the eye. of God.