Is it hard for you to stop feeling insecure about your relationship? Has he done anything to make you have these feelings or are you worrying for no reason? Are you worried that you might find someone new and leave you, even if there is no reason for you to think this way? If you feel insecure, you are definitely in a bad place in your own mind and if you don’t get rid of these feelings, your fears may come true.

Consider how it feels

Put yourself in their shoes. If he tells you all the time that he loves you and doesn’t do anything that might make you think that he doesn’t, what is the problem? You’re basically slapping him and letting him know that you don’t believe in him or trust him, and how do you think this will make him feel?

You may feel insecure, but you will make him think that you don’t really love him either. If you continue on this path of insecurity in your relationship, you are looking for trouble. Have you ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? That’s where you make something happen because of your actions. Well, you can pretty well predict that your relationship will stop abruptly if you don’t change a few things.

Tell him how you feel

The first thing you should do is tell him that you feel more for yourself than for him. If you’ve had a bad relationship where the guy treated you badly and destroyed your trust, tell him about it. At least that way, he can understand what makes you act the way you are and help you overcome those feelings of insecurity that another guy caused you.

Let him know that you know he is one of the good guys and that he is lucky to have him. Teasingly ask him to remind you if he ever forgets he said that. And then think about what you just said to this wonderful boy and do your best to try to let go of your insecurity.

Whatever you do, don’t do it …

Whatever you do, don’t get clingy and needy with him. There will be times when you need a bit of reassurance and it’s okay to ask her if she loves you from time to time. But don’t harass him by constantly asking for comfort.

Also, it is important that you give him some room to breathe. Holding on too much is not the way to go if you don’t want your insecurity to ruin your relationship. Trust that he will go out with his friends without your accompanying him. Trust him to have lunch with a group of your coworkers, even if some of them are women. And why wouldn’t you trust him if he’s never given you a reason not to?

The bottom line is that he is with you because he wants to be with you, not because he has to be. Think about it when you feel insecure and turn that bad feeling into a good one. It is your choice how you feel. Why not choose to feel safe in your love?

If you want to learn more about dating confidence and how to deal with past issues with love, then I’d love to help you!