How to get pregnant: have sex with the baby
Here we get to the heart of the matter: how is a baby actually made? You have sex, of course. Yes, you should try to predict your ovulation by charting your cycle, but if you and your partner are not busy, your goal will not be reached.
Obviously it only takes one time to create a baby. However, to maximize your chances of conceiving, it is best to have sex at least a couple of times during your fertile period. After you have read this book, you will become aware of the infertile periods in your cycle.
However, it is a good idea to be sexually active throughout the cycle. Why?
1) The frequency of ejaculation can help improve sperm motility. It is not recommended that your partner abstain from ejaculation for more than a week.
2) Trying to conceive can be stressful for both of you. If you are only intimate to have a baby, then you are putting undue pressure on the few times you have sex. Your partner may have a hard time a) getting or maintaining an erection, or b) ejaculating. To avoid these situations, have sex throughout your cycle. Also, if you have trouble predicting ovulation, this strategy will maximize your chances of success.
Yes, I realize that you know how to have sex. However, try to think of this as a baby having sex. It should be a little different from your normal activities. Of course, just by having sex you can get pregnant, but if you follow some of these tricks of the trade, you will increase your chances.
Many believe that making babies should be fun and spontaneous. Yes, you can have fun, but spontaneity should be reserved for your infertile times. Making a baby requires planning to increase your chances of conceiving. After all, if you wanted to be spontaneous, you wouldn’t be reading this book.
The sperm count is a key factor in the design. Total count, concentration, motility, abnormalities, etc. they are all components of the semen analysis (S / A). If your partner has been tested, then you are one step ahead of most couples. If your partner has not been tested, then it is best to assume a normal sperm count at the beginning of your journey to try to conceive.
Normal sperm count
Your partner needs to increase his sperm count before beginning the baby production process. A three-day abstinence period goes a long way toward ensuring that there is sufficient concentration and quantity of sperm to get the job done. Remember that abstinence excludes all forms of ejaculation: oral sex, masturbation, intercourse, etc.
After your partner “suffers” during this three-day period, have sex daily. However, be sure to time intercourse at least 24 hours apart. Your partner needs this time to “refuel”. This means that you need to schedule your intimate moments. Pick a time of day when you are free and unfettered.
Mona and her husband, Mike, decide that 10 p.m. is the best time to have sex with babies. Right now, they are generally settling in to watch the news. They are relaxed and have completed all tasks and activities for the day. Also, they have plenty of time and do not need to rush.
Mike and Mona’s hours:
1) They have sex on Monday night.
2) Mike then abstains until 10pm on Thursday night.
3) Then the couple have sex with babies every night at 10pm from Thursday to Sunday.
4) Mona’s graph shows the probable ovulation that occurs on Saturday.
Low sperm count
For a low sperm count, you should have sex with the baby every other day (48 hours apart) because your partner takes more time to “replenish” than does a man with a normal sperm count. Refraining from ejaculation for at least three days before starting your baby’s prep schedule is still crucial.
Jeff has a low sperm count. He and his partner, Cara, decide that since they usually go to sleep at 11:30 p.m. M., You will begin meeting with your baby at 10:30 pm. M.
Jeff and Cara’s hours:
1) On Monday, Jeff masturbates. Then he abstains until Thursday night (observing the three-day rule).
2) The couple has sex on Thursday, Saturday, Monday and Wednesday nights around 10:30 pm.
3) Cara’s chart shows that ovulation is likely to occur on Tuesday.
It does not work !!
He had recommended that, in the absence of medical evidence, he assume that his partner has a normal sperm count. However, after a few failed cycles, a change can be made. You can choose to follow the low sperm count sex program, which is every 48 hours. However, you may want to try a more moderate schedule of every 36 hours. The latter could be a bit more complicated in terms of timing. As a couple, you will need to find two moments during the day that are free and unfettered. Obviously, this is a much easier scenario for a couple without children.
Lucy and Rob have been trying to conceive for four cycles. Rob hasn’t done an S / A, but they’ve assumed his count was normal, so he had sex on a daily basis. The couple decide that they would like to try the 36-hour method. Lucy needs to get up for work at 7 a.m. While Rob doesn’t need to get up until 8 a.m. M. The couple decides to set the alarm for 6:15 am and have sex with babies. They know that they will also have to have sex around 7pm, roughly 36 hours later. It is also a good time for them because it is after dinner.
Lucy and Rob’s hours:
1) They have sex on Saturday morning.
2) Rob abstains until Tuesday morning (observing the three-day rule).
3) The couple then has sex at these times: 6:15 am Tuesday, 7 pm Wednesday, 6:15 am Friday and 7 pm Saturday.
4) Lucy’s graph shows that ovulation is likely to occur on Friday.
NOTE: If you have sex on a daily basis, then it is very important to allow 24 hours between “sessions”, giving your partner time to rebuild his sperm count. If you’re following a 36- or 48-hour schedule, it won’t be a big deal to get a couple of hours off.
Practice makes perfect. It is much easier to plan the time and frequency of your intercourse when you have logged at least two cycles (three or more is better) because then you will have an idea of your personal pattern. You will want to know at what point in your cycle you usually ovulate. This does not mean that you have to say, “I ovulate on day X of the cycle.” Although this is ideal, it is not realistic for you to ovulate on the exact same day of the cycle each month. You are more likely to be able to set a range: “I will probably ovulate sometime between day X and Z of the cycle.
It is ideal to participate in at least two baby-making encounters before the ovulation date, to try to ensure fertilization.
Or is the day the best day ???
Many women think that if they have sex on the day of ovulation, they will have done their best. This is a misconception for three reasons:
1) Many women note that their peak day (last fertile quality cervical fluid (CF) day) actually occurs one day before ovulation. Since fertile-quality CF is the best means of transport for sperm, it would be logical to think that your peak day is the best day to have sex with the baby.
2) Many women begin to dry out on the day of ovulation. Sticky CF or the absence of CF will be a major obstacle to sperm motility.
3) It is better that the sperm are in the fallopian tubes before the egg is released. Sperm can take hours to travel to the fallopian tubes. Unless you know the exact time you are going to ovulate, having sex on the day of ovulation can be a hit or miss possibility.
So if peak day is the best day, then what? Obviously, if you have sex every day, reaching the peak day is not a problem. If you have sex every other day, it can be tricky. Do your best to include the peak day, but don’t worry if it isn’t possible. Remember that sperm can live for five to six days in fertile quality fluid. If you have two days of egg white CF and have sex on one of them, then you are golden. Even if you miss egg white day, but hit your creamy CF day, you still have a great chance.
Many women want to know the best position for their baby to have sex. There are two that I favor, missionary and back entry. The only position you definitely want to avoid is that of a woman on top. The problem with this position is simply gravity. When your partner ejaculates while you are on top, there is a greater chance that the sperm will escape. Missionary is usually the preferred position, but the rear entrance has the distinct advantage of depositing sperm closer to the cervix.
NOTE: The rear entrance can be a disadvantage if your partner ejaculates too deeply, creating a pool of sperm behind your cervix. To minimize this risk, your partner should back off slightly before ejaculating.
Leaning back is divine
After intercourse, it is preferable to lie on your back for at least 15 minutes with your hips elevated. This practice will allow the sperm to begin their journey up the fallopian tubes without having to fight gravity. To elevate your hips, place a pillow under your butt. Have your partner turn on the television for you or, better yet, take the time to talk about your day with your partner. 15 to 30 minutes is all it takes to allow the sperm to get a head start.
Do you have a tilted uterus?
20% of women have a tilted uterus. This means that the uterus leans forward or backward (anteflexed or receding). Having a tilted uterus does not lower your chances of conceiving. Actually, it is considered to be similar to being left-handed. However, you can improve your chances by having sex from behind. Also, it is recommended that instead of lying on your back for 15 to 30 minutes after intercourse, you lie on your stomach. Place a pillow under your upper thigh to elevate it.
Things to avoid
1) Saliva: can kill sperm. It is best not to have oral sex before having sex.
2) Some commercial lubricants: Many of them will decrease your chances of conceiving. If you must use lube, real egg whites are ideal. Also, a new product, Pre ~ Seed Intimate Moisturizer, has received rave reviews from women, so it may be worth a try.
3) Woman position on top: should be avoided at the time of ejaculation.
4) Get up immediately after intercourse: If possible, give the sperm some time to travel by lying down afterwards.
Happy baby making!
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