Body Language 101:

She looks at you when you enter the room. Great. She smiles in response to your smile or says “Hello” in response to your greeting. Also positive signs. But these are in no way proof of her interest.

The body always tells the true story. Words are carefully chosen to avoid offending others. A woman can engage in courtesies even when the other party absolutely repels her. But as she politely nods, her body inadvertently or consciously reveals her true feelings. So she listens to what she says, but she also watches what she does.

I have given responses to dating requests that could be interpreted as encouraging; For example, a waiter asked me in a crowded restaurant if I would go for a motorcycle ride in the countryside with him the next day. He was thinking, “No, no, no!” but he had cornered me. How to gently turn him down with so many people listening nearby escaped me, so instead I lamely offered a “Maybe,” to which he jumped, saying, “Great, what time?” Now he was truly between a rock and a hard place and had even less idea how to get me out. “Well, I’m not sure, when were you going?” I asked meekly, only digging deeper and completely confusing him. But aside from him taking us by surprise, we were in a public place and I didn’t want to embarrass the guy. I had no intention of going out with him and I didn’t.

What does she do when she Really he likes you:

• Eyebrow flash: When a man or woman falls in love with someone, they quickly raise and then lower their eyebrows, usually followed by a smile. It’s a pretty immediate and fast reflex, so watch it closely or you’ll miss it. But don’t go crazy on this sign alone: ​​Women do this when their interest is friendly and romantic. Platonic interest is just a shorter flash. Make sure you look for other signs besides the flash of the eyebrow.
• the look: makes sustained eye contact for more than two seconds, followed by looking down. This primitive reflex lets you know that she loves you and is willing to submit to you, which means she is waiting for you to come along and make a move.
• Hair release:Yes, it’s true: women move their hair when they flirt. The biological reason is to show the neck. Social scientists say that revealing the neck is a sign of submission.
• Dilated pupils: The women, who are deeply fascinated by you, take on the look of someone who has hit the bong one too many times: their pupils unmistakably widen into large black pools of pheromones. It often accompanies a slightly silly smile. Of course, dim lights also dilate the pupils, so again, consider your surroundings and look for additional signs.
• Making the turn:Women who flirt are restless. They twirl their hair, bite their nails, lick their lips, and play with any available object. That kind of restlessness is a definite green light.
• Touching you touching me: Sure, sometimes women are completely obvious touching your arm, your hair, your hands, your back, making little excuses to put their gloves on your man parts. But touching themselves is an equally strong indicator that you are a wanted man. We put our hands in all the places we would subconsciously like you to put your hands: our mouths, hips, necks, etc. If she is caressing her thigh sensually, you can be sure that she is looking forward to contact with you!
• body posture: She will lean towards you as you speak and mirror your body movements: you cross your arms and she crosses her arms; you put your hand on your chin and she does the same, etc.

 

what does she do when she
It is not Really like you:

• Locks:She will create subtle or more obvious barriers between you and her by crossing her arms, hugging books to her chest, holding a menu or waving hello or goodbye in front of her face or even covering her mouth or part of it. face while she talks to you. As cute as gestures may be, she placed a glitch in the space where the connection might have taken place.
• Changing eyes: She will avert her gaze from yours to let you know that she is busy with something else, for example, a menu, a newspaper, or a cell phone (which she has taken out of her bag to check even if it hasn’t rung). If she looks like she wants to go back to her book, she probably does. Walk away.
• smile styles: Does not smile or smiles with mouth but not with eyes or smiles without showing teeth. All evidence of lukewarm enthusiasm. In fact, any tepid facial animation is a very good indication that she is not receptive to you. An interested woman smiles showing at least some, if not all, of her teeth and laughs, often a little too much. She is unmistakable.
• Space: You could actually take a few steps back creating more physical distance between the two of you as you continue to chat.

To remember: Just because she responds to your initial question or greeting or gives you a cursory first look doesn’t mean she loves you very much or at all! Going to closing prematurely is bad, bad, bad. Women respond to conversational advances with ease and friendliness and perfunctorily survey new men entering a room as normal, just as men do. There should be more indicators of interest for you to be sure that you are liking it. Now you have them!

Good luck!!

Maya Martin, Relationship Coach